{"id":411,"date":"2023-02-13T01:17:54","date_gmt":"2023-02-13T01:17:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/?p=411"},"modified":"2025-03-16T02:51:23","modified_gmt":"2025-03-16T02:51:23","slug":"when-certainty-is-important-to-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/when-certainty-is-important-to-you\/","title":{"rendered":"When the Need for Certainty \/ Comfort is Important to You"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<center style=\"padding:1em 0;\">\r\n<iframe src=\"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/app\/Questionnaires\/SixHumanNeeds\/Play?embed=true\" data-autosize=\"1\" style=\"margin:0px; padding:0px; border:none; display:block; height:100vh; min-height:400px; min-width: 100%; overflow: hidden;\" scrolling=\"no\"><\/iframe>\r\n<\/center>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-when-the-need-for-certainty-comfort-is-important-to-you\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"When_the_Need_for_Certainty_Comfort_is_Important_to_You\"><\/span>When the Need for Certainty \/ Comfort is Important to You<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright size-large is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/poweredbygnosis.com\/wp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/maslow-1.png\" alt=\"Human Needs\" class=\"wp-image-1415\" style=\"width:320px;height:320px\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Let&#8217;s first review Abraham Maslow&#8217;s&nbsp;theory of human needs. In 1943, Abraham Maslow proposed the hierarchy of psychological needs, illustrating an order of human motivation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is often depicted as a pyramid because Maslow initially suggested that we must satisfy our Physiological Needs first, followed by our need for Safety, Love, and a Sense of Belonging, then <a data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"299\" href=\"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/how-to-improve-your-negative-self-image\/\">Self-Esteem<\/a>, and finally, Self-actualization in that order.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maslow later clarified that the order in the hierarchy &#8220;is not nearly as rigid&#8221; as he originally implied.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, for some, the need for <a data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"299\" href=\"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/how-to-improve-your-negative-self-image\/\">Self-Esteem<\/a> could be more important than <a data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"420\" href=\"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/when-the-need-for-love-connection-is-important-to-you\/\">the need for Love<\/a>. For others, the need for creative fulfillment may supersede even the most Basic Needs.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/poweredbygnosis.com\/wp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/Six-human-needs-.jpg\" alt=\"Six Human Needs\" class=\"wp-image-1308\" style=\"width:320px;height:287px\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>For these reasons,&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Clo%C3%A9_Madanes\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Clo\u00e9 Madanes<\/a>, a world-renowned innovator and teacher of family and strategic therapy, separated the Emotional areas from the Physical and reworked the needs into &#8220;<a href=\"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/the-six-human-needs\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"427\">The Six Human Needs.<\/a>&#8220;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Clo\u00e9 explains that the <a data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"427\" href=\"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/the-six-human-needs\/\">Six Human Needs<\/a> are not &#8220;Desires&#8221; but actual &#8220;Psychological Needs&#8221; that we continually try to satisfy consciously and subconsciously.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Your needs influence your deepest motivations and determine how you prioritize your decisions and actions throughout your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you try to meet those needs that are not in line with your values, you will experience conflict and discontent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Conversely, when you can align your needs with your highest values, you will feel more fulfilled and complete.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft size-full is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/poweredbygnosis.com\/wp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/SixNeeds.jpg\" alt=\"Six Human Needs Pairing\" class=\"wp-image-1795\" style=\"width:461px;height:309px\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>The Six Human Needs work in pairs: Certainty with Variety, Significance with Love and Connection, and Growth with Contribution.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The first two pairs are in constant search of balance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you feel that you don&#8217;t have enough of one of the needs when you have too much of the other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On the other hand, the bottom two needs, Growth, and Contribution, can grow separately or together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-is-the-need-for-certainty-comfort\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What_is_the_Need_for_Certainty_Comfort\"><\/span>What is the Need for Certainty \/ Comfort?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"220\" src=\"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/Comfort-Avatar.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-15671\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You want to feel secure, safe, and comfortable at all times, now and in the future.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Therefore, avoiding pain is very important to you.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You can&#8217;t be happy when you&#8217;re uncertain about things.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>A high need for Certainty\/Comfort means striving to feel safe and secure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You want predictability and a sense of Comfort, which gives you a comfortable mind and helps ward off stress, anxiety, and worry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The need for Certainty is often characterized by the need to acquire short-term pleasure, regardless of whether it will lead to long-term pain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you strive to satisfy the need for Certainty, you might eat oCertaintylcohol excessively, smoke, or use recreational drugs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Additionally, you might procrastinate or attempt to control other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>These behaviors provide you with a sense of Comfort in the present, Mom. However, they could also potentially lead to pain in the long run.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The need for Certainty, of course, doesn&#8217;t end with negative consequences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Certainty is sometimes necessary because it provides emotional stability and financial security.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-the-need-for-certainty-comfort-serves-you\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_the_Need_for_Certainty_Comfort_Serves_You\"><\/span><a><\/a>How the Need for Certainty \/ Comfort Serves You<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You avoid risks, and you carefully plan for the future.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You are careful and take care of yourself.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>People know you are predictable.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You know how to be organized.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-the-need-for-certainty-comfort-hurts-you\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_the_Need_for_Certainty_Comfort_Hurts_You\"><\/span><a><\/a>How the Need for Certainty \/ Comfort Hurts You<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You limit your new experiences.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You have trouble letting Love flow when you don&#8217;t feel secure and comfortable.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You have trouble involving yourself with people for fear that they will cause you pain.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>People sometimes think that you are controlling.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You may seem unenthusiastic and even dull.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You are predictable at the cost of being spontaneous.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Remember, the future is unpredictable; all we have is the present moment, and it is possible to be uncertain about the future and be happy in the present. And where there is no risk, there is no gain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-certainty-comfort-focus\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Certainty_Comfort_Focus\"><\/span><a><\/a>Certainty \/ Comfort Focus<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You focus on stability, habitual routines, and preparing and saving for the future.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You prefer work that is stable and easy instead of work that is challenging and stretches your abilities.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-certainty-comfort-energy\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Certainty_Comfort_Energy\"><\/span><a><\/a>Certainty \/ Comfort Energy<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You put your energy into organizing a secure and comfortable environment.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You&#8217;re focused inwardly on evaluating your level of comfort-discomfort.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-certainty-comfort-health\"><a><\/a>Certainty \/ Comfort Health<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You like to take care of yourself, but your need for Comfort may lead you to comfort or drink.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-certainty-comfort-avoidance\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Certainty_Comfort_Avoidance\"><\/span><a><\/a>Certainty \/ Comfort Avoidance<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You tend to avoid new people and new experiences.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You avoid relationships where there is no total commitment.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You avoid threats and hazards.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You fear not being in control.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-certainty-comfort-strengths\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Certainty_Comfort_Strengths\"><\/span><a><\/a>Certainty \/ Comfort Strengths<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You are organized, reliable, and dependable.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You can create a home and work environment that is pleasing and where people can feel comfortable.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-certainty-comfort-communication-style\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Certainty_Comfort_Communication_Style\"><\/span><a><\/a>Certainty \/ Comfort Communication Style<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You often discuss your internal states, emphasizing whether you feel grounded, protected, and safe.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You frequently use words: Comfort, security, stability, and predictability.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-certainty-comfort-stress\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Certainty_Comfort_Stress\"><\/span><a><\/a>Certainty \/ Comfort Stress<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You are stressed when something new is required of you when you don&#8217;t know what will happen next.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Even if there are new opportunities, changes in plans stress you out.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You put pressure on yourself to make sure you don&#8217;t feel insecure.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-certainty-comfort-defensiveness\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Certainty_Comfort_Defensiveness\"><\/span><a><\/a>Certainty \/ Comfort Defensiveness<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You get defensive when changing your habits or dealing with new people and situations.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You can get angry when people challenge your need to feel comfortable and to have predictability in your life.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-certainty-comfort-emotions\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Certainty_Comfort_Emotions\"><\/span><a><\/a>Certainty \/ Comfort Emotions<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You worry a great deal about the future.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You&#8217;re very sensitive to danger and experience fear easily.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You sometimes envy people with more money or considerable income than you have.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-your-goal-for-achieving-certainty-comfort-growth-and-balance\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Your_Goal_for_Achieving_Certainty_Comfort_Growth_and_Balance\"><\/span>Your Goal for Achieving Certainty \/ Comfort Growth and Balance<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Your Goal is to achieve specific goals and growth. CertaintyanComforto, live in the present and experience the moment without focusing on what will happen next and what the future might hold.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What to do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>It would be best if you took some risks to reap some benefits.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>It would be best to accept that Uncertainty and insecurity are a part of life.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>It would be best to stretch yourself by learning new things and having new experiences.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Instead of fear and anxiety, you need to learn to experience excitement and joy.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>It would be best if you learned to enjoy a challenge.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You need to develop courage and be able to act even when you feel insecure.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You need to get a reality check from others about your fears and concerns.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>What interferes with your Goal?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You wish to feel comfortable, but planning for the future interferes with your Goal.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You can be overproteGoale and controlling.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You require too much Certainty.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You can be pessCertaintybout the future.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>How can others support you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Others can support you by introducing you to new experiences and encouraging more spontaneity and fun.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>They can counter your doubts and fears in realistic ways.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-certainty-comfort-advice\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Certainty_Comfort_Advice\"><\/span><a><\/a>Certainty \/ Comfort Advice<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>It would be best to stretch yourself by learning new things and having new experiences.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Instead of fear and anxiety, you need to learn to experience excitement and joy.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>It would be best if you learned to enjoy a challenge.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You need to develop courage and be able to act even when you feel insecure.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You need to get a reality check from others about your fears and concerns.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-buttons is-content-justification-center is-layout-flex wp-container-core-buttons-is-layout-16018d1d wp-block-buttons-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-button is-style-outline is-style-outline--2\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link wp-element-button\" href=\"\/Quiz\/SixHumanNeeds\/Play\">Take the Six Human Needs Assessment for Free<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<script async=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-4590131564117670\" crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script>\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" style=\"display:block\" data-ad-format=\"autorelaxed\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-4590131564117670\" data-ad-slot=\"7455872473\"><\/ins>\n<script>\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\n<\/script>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When the Need for Certainty \/ Comfort is Important to You Let&#8217;s first review Abraham Maslow&#8217;s&nbsp;theory of human needs. In 1943, Abraham Maslow proposed the hierarchy of psychological needs, illustrating an order of human motivation. It is often depicted as a pyramid because Maslow initially suggested that we must satisfy our Physiological Needs first, followed<span class=\"dots\"> &hellip; <\/span><span class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/when-certainty-is-important-to-you\/\" class=\"more-link\">Read more <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">&#8220;When the Need for Certainty \/ Comfort is Important to You&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":239,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"wds_primary_category":7,"footnotes":""},"categories":[7,5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-411","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-six-human-needs","category-well-being"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/411","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=411"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/411\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/239"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=411"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=411"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mypersonalitystyle.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=411"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}