Understanding the “Giver” MBTI ENFJ Personality Type

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The ENFJ Giver Personality Type

People with ENFJ personality types are often described as warm, outgoing, loyal, and sensitive.

Of all the personality types, they are often perceived as the most people-oriented.

They can forge friendships with anyone, even with the most introverted or reticent individuals.

Because of their ability to sense what others feel and behave, they can influence and even manipulate others.

This is typically balanced by their strong values and desires to help others to be the best they can be.

With Extraverted Feelings as their dominant and top extraverted functions, Givers are Judgers and use objective values when making decisions.

They are forward-thinking with their Introverted Intuition, looking for deep connections and patterns.

Givers like to gather facts with their Extraverted Sensing and are selfless with their Introverted Thinking lowest function.

Givers are extraverted, preferring time with others to discuss things. They are also structured, like to plan and prefer closure.

Givers are “Abstract Judges” with Introverted Intuition and Extraverted Feelings. When feeling threatened, they are more likely to be so invested in their general negative view of themselves that they overlook details that contradict that view. They may also behave with the Placater Satir Communication Style.

ENFJ Personality Type cross-reference

• Keirsey Type – Teacher
• Temperament Type – Phlegmatic
• Animal Type – Otter
• DISC Type – Influential
• Socio-Communicative Type – Expressive
• True Colors – Blue
• Color Code – Blue
• Personality Compass – West
• Occupational Type – Artistic
• Learning Type – Theorist
• Leadership Type – Collaborator

Enneagram Types

The Enneagram is a Personality Typing System comprising nine different types.

• Type 1 – The Reformer

Dominant Function – Extraverted Feeling

• They express this cognitive function by engaging in social behavior and harmonious relationships.
• They are in tune with other people’s feelings, often to the point that they ignore their needs to please others.
• They emphasize personal, subject considerations rather than objective criteria when making decisions.
• How a decision will impact others is often a primary concern.

Auxiliary Function – Introverted Intuition

• They like to think about the future rather than the present.
• They may become so focused on the larger goal that they lose sight of the immediate details.
• They take in information about the world, and their introverted intuition processes this data to create impressions, ideas, and thoughts.
• This allows them to spot patterns and make sense of complex or abstract data.

Tertiary Function – Extraverted Sensing

• Their extraverted sensing causes them to take in the present moment, gathering concrete details and sensory information from the environment.
• Because of this, they often seek novel or exciting experiences and sensations.
• People with this personality type tend to be very aware of their environment.
• This can lead to a tremendous appreciation of aesthetics and a desire to create a pleasing space.

Inferior Function – Introverted Thinking

• They are organized and enjoy structure and careful planning.
• Sticking to a predictable schedule helps them feel in control of the world around them.
• Because this is an inferior function, they may not be confident in their ability to be logical and organized.
• Developing this function can help people with this personality type feel more balanced and in control of their decision-making process.
• Neglecting this aspect of personality can lead to relying solely on personal values when making decisions and ignoring the need for logic.

ENFJ Traits

ENFJs are generous, reflective, friendly, and romantic. They are solid extraverts and sincerely enjoy spending time with others.

They have great people skills and are often described as warm, affectionate, and supportive.

ENFjs are great at encouraging others and derive personal satisfaction from helping others.

While they love people, they need time to assimilate and organize their thoughts. Their primary function is Extraverted Feeling, so they naturally work well in matters concerning other people.

Their auxiliary function is Introverted Intuition, which lets them perceive the mind’s inner workings and makes them aware of other people’s needs.

ENFJs work more like chameleons or mirrors rather than individuals to suit others better. They can express their values, of course, but they would rather be supportive of others.

They prefer things to be well-organized but do not like to be forced to deal with logic and facts that do not connect to people.

ENFJs may judge things too quickly based on their morals and values without objectively analyzing a situation.

Strengths

• Outgoing and warm-hearted
• Empathetic
• Wide social circle
• Encouraging
• Organized

Weaknesses

• Approval-seeking
• Overly sensitive
• Indecisive
• Self-sacrificing

ENFJ Relationships

Friendships

• One of the best ways to be a good friend to an ENFJ is to accept the care and support they naturally offer.
• People with this personality type enjoy helping their friends. It is essential to show that you accept and appreciate what they offer.
• It would be best if you also offered your support.
• ENFJs are not always good at asking for help when needed.
• In many cases, listening to whatever they share can be very helpful.

Personal Relationships

• They value others and are warm, nurturing, and supportive in personal relationships.
• They can sometimes become very wrapped up in other people’s problems.
• They are generous and interested in helping others, which can sometimes be overbearing.
• Despite this, they are usually well-liked, and people appreciate their genuine concern and care. 
• They are nurturing and warm as parents, although they can sometimes be accused of being so-called “helicopter parents.”
• They are directly involved in their children’s lives, although they can sometimes be strict and rigid.
• They must give their children room to explore and express their individuality, particularly as they age into adolescence.
• They have outgoing personalities and enjoy spending time with others. Being in social settings helps them feel energized.
• People typically describe them as supportive and fun in friendships and other relationships.
• They are particularly good at relating to others.
• They are known to help bring out the best in the people they spend their time with.

Partner Relationships

• Because they are so sensitive to others’ feelings, your happiness is critical to your partner’s happiness.
• Remember that your partner may even put their own needs last to ensure that your needs are met.
• Let your ENFJ partner know how much you appreciate all the support and care they offer and be willing to provide the same aid in return – even if they struggle to ask for help.

Parenting

• Children of ENFJs might find it challenging to live up to their parents’ high exceptions.
• At times, the ENFJ parent’s hands-on approach to parenting can be stifling and make it difficult for kids to explore the world independently.
• Parents of ENFJ children should recognize that their children are highly empathetic, sometimes to the point that they may feel overwhelmed by the intense emotions that other people evoke.
• These children are giving and caring but may struggle to burden others with their struggles.
• Parents should encourage their children to care for others while caring for their emotional well-being.

ENFJ Careers

• ENFJs often do best in careers where they help others and spend much time interacting with them.
• Because of their strong communication and organizational skills, ENFJs can make great leaders and managers.
• They are good at organizing activities, helping each group member achieve their potential, and resolving interpersonal conflicts.
• They strive to create harmony in all situations and always know how to ease tensions and minimize disagreements.