Type 2 - The Helper

• Demonstrative
• Generous
• People-Pleasing
• Possessive

• They strive to be loved and wanted by those around them.
• Their pervasive, underlying fear is that there is nothing inherently loveable about them, and they must help others earn their love.
• Their prime motivation is proving themselves worthy of care and love from others.
• They constantly aim to move away from worthlessness and toward relationships that foster mutual loving and caregiving.

• To feel loved.

• To be worthy of care and love from others.

• Your needs for love and attention go unmet.
• You develop a belief that your needs are less important than others.
• You manipulate the outer world to get your inner needs met.
• You believe it is selfish to have your own needs met. You take care of others to earn their love.

• Externalizes or focuses their shame outwardly.
• Their shame is your problem and, thus, your problem to solve.
• If you give them enough feedback that they're of value to you, it soothes their soul.
• They'll do whatever they can to get that feedback and are often focused on getting others' needs met and neglecting their own.
• They are generous, demonstrative, people-pleasing, and possessive.

Personality Type Cross-reference

• ESFP - The Performer
• ISFP - The Artist

• Temperament Type - Sanguine
• Animal Type - Golden Retriever
• DISC Type - Steadiness
• Socio-Communicative Type - Amiable
• True Colors - Orange
• Color Code - Yellow
• Personality Compass - South

• ESFJ - The Provider
• ISFJ - The Protector

• Temperament Type - Melancholy
• Animal Type - Beaver
• DISC Type - Compliant
• Socio-Communicative Type - Analytical
• True Colors - Gold
• Color Code - White
• Personality Compass - East

Traits

Center of Intelligence

Focus of Attention

• Twos focus on relationships, gaining approval, and seducing others through helpfulness as a strategic way to get their disowned needs met.
• Twos actively “read” the people around them and align with (what they perceive to be) their moods and preferences to maximize the potential for positive connection.

Patterns of Thinking and Feeling

• Emotionally, Twos fear rejection. So they frequently repress their feelings to please others.
• When their emotions can no longer be hidden, they may display anger, sadness, anxiety, or hurt. Because of these contradictory impulses,
• Twos may feel emotionally conflicted.
• Twos also express happy feelings to appear likable to others.

Behavior Patterns

• Twos tend to be upbeat, energetic, and friendly, though sometimes this can mask (and be overcompensation for) repressed needs and a tendency toward depression.
• They are driven and hardworking, especially in the service of others or a project they feel passionate about. Still, they can also be hedonistic and self-indulgent.
• Twos may also play the role of martyr, sacrificing their needs and desires to win over others but then suffering for it.

Passion—Pride

• In the language of the Enneagram, pride functions as a need for self-inflation and gets expressed as a false generosity in the service of seduction and self-elevation.
• Pride also fuels a pattern of self-idealization and grandiosity, followed by reactive devaluation and self-criticism.

Arrows

Wings

Relationships

Addictions

• Abusing food and over-the-counter medications
• Bingeing, especially on sweets and carbohydrates
• Over-eating from feeling “love-starved;” in extreme cases bulimia
• Hypochondria to look for sympathy

Red Flags

• People-pleasing, looking for things to say or do to make people like them, forced friendliness, flattery, overly generous.

Interpersonal Coping Style

• Dutiful – Act on their feelings to earn love while disconnecting from thinking.

Conflict Style

• Positive – try to anticipate others’ needs
• Can create conflict by uninvited help
• Can be seen as clingy or needy

Self-Preservation Subtype

• This Two may mistype with Enneagram Type Seven or Six.
• They are “cute,” often childlike in that they are slightly shy but charming and inspire protective instincts in others.
• They want to be taken care of but resist being dependent on others, hesitant and self-protective in taking on long-term commitments and responsibilities.
• They feel hurt or withdrawn when they feel or fear rejection from others.
• They “seduce” like a child in the presence of grown-ups as a way of (unconsciously) inducing others to take care of them.
• Everyone likes children. The Self-Preservation Two adopts a youthful stance to get special treatment beyond childhood.
• As the countertype, it’s less easy to see the pride in this Two because they are more fearful of and ambivalent about connecting with others.
• The title “Privilege” reflects these Two’s desire to be loved and prioritized for being who they are, not for what they give others.
• Related to the youthful stance, these Twos are playful, irresponsible, and charming.

Social Subtype

• These Two use their seductive powers more intellectually to attract and engage groups, communities, and broader systems.
• They stand out, often taking a central or leadership role.
• They enjoy being ‘in the know’ and building their influence on their competence and connections.
• Giving more than they get may be a strategy to distract them from uncomfortable feelings.
• Less childlike than other Twos, their ambition and influence can be mistaken for type Three or Eight.
• They are a seducer of environments and groups—a powerful leader type whose pride manifests as a sense of satisfaction in the conquest of an audience.
• This is a more adult Two in whom pride is the most obvious; the Social Two cultivates an image of an influential, super-competent person worthy of admiration.
• The name “Ambition” reflects this person’s desire to “be on top” and, as a result of this lofty position, receive advantages and benefits.
• This Two “gives to get” the most and always have a strategic angle when expressing generosity.

One-to-One Subtype

• This Two focus their talents, seductive abilities, and energy on attracting and building solid and intimate relationships.
• In close relationships, they can feel trust and assert their needs more clearly.
• They are strong-willed, flexible, and passionate – even wild at heart – which may cause mistyping with Enneagram Four.
• Highly devoted to close relationships, they may find accepting limits challenging or taking “no” for an answer.
• They seduce specific individuals to get their needs met and feed their pride.
• Similar to the “femme fatale” archetype (and male equivalent), this Two employs the methods of classical seduction to attract a partner who will meet all their needs and give them whatever they want.
• The name “Aggressive-Seductive” suggests an appealing character who also wants to wield some power.
• Energetically like a force of nature, this person becomes irresistible and inspires excellent passions and positive feelings to meet needs in life.

Dilemma

• The great temptation of twos is continually to help others and, in this way, to evade themselves.
• The identity of twos lies, as it were, in the wishes and needs of other people, which means outside of themselves.
• This often leads to a chaotic emotional life. Immature twos have difficulty finding their center.
• Twos tend to seduce other people. In thoroughly neurotic cases, this can lead to abuse.
• The helplessness and neediness of children can appeal to two.
• Often, it’s enough to make the helpless child a substitute object for its needs.
• They direct toward the object all the love they want for themselves but, for some reason, can’t get.
• In a partnership, twos can be very possessive. Sometimes they look for partners who are weak and dependent.
• A classic constellation is the partnership between two (usually female) and an addict.
• Twos often struggle with codependency and invest all her energy in an addict so that he needs her and won’t abandon her.
• When immature twos are hurt. They can suddenly stop being sweet and compliant and show their claws.
• Twos may be everybody’s garbage disposal, but they shy away from depending on others.
• The root sin of twos is their pride.
• Pride is different from conceit or narcissism; it is an expression of a “puffed-up self,” an “inflationary ego.” or “I’m more loving and sensitive than all of you; my love will save the world.
• I will see that it saves you. I will make my love so indispensable to your life and your system that you won’t be able to get along without me.”
• Pride makes it hard for twos to find unbarred access to themselves.
• Real self-knowledge, awareness of their hidden self-interest, is harder for them than others.
• The avoidance strategy of twos consists of suppressing and projecting their needs onto others.
  
• Twos hide the fact that they are so needy.
• They fear what could happen if their immense need for warmth, love, and intimacy gets out of control.
• Their needs are sensory-emotional: tenderness, sex, and attachment.
• Other sensual needs can easily be turned into replacements: eating, drinking, and shopping till they drop.
• After they have spent the whole day satisfying the needs of other people and repressing their own, Twos say in the evenings,
• “I’ve earned this; I have to reward myself for doing all sorts of things that I didn’t want to do.” A huge number of twos have weight problems.
  
• The defense mechanism of twos is repression. Twos repress negative impulses and feelings, especially in aggression and sexuality.
• The pitfall of unredeemed twos is obligingness or flattery.
• They deny themselves to “please” others.
• The fruit of the spirit of twos is humility, the reverse of pride.
• When twos reach the point where they recognize their real motives, there comes a sobering, more profound moment than can be imagined. 
• When twos dare to endure this insight, to chew it, taste it, and digest it, then transformation and healing are possible.

Personal Growth

• One of your lifelong tasks is achieving a certain degree of objectivity and freeing yourself from gossip, flattery, false intimacy, sentimentalism, and the continual quest for reinforcement.
• First and foremost, remember that if you are not addressing your own needs, it is doubtful that you will be able to meet anyone else's needs without problems, underlying resentments, and continual frustration.
• Further, you will be less able to respond to people in a balanced way if you have not gotten adequate rest and taken care of yourself properly.
• It is not selfish to make sure that you are okay before attending to others' needs—it is simply common sense.
• Try to become more conscious of your motives when you decide to help someone.
• While doing good things for people is certainly an admirable trait, when you do so because you expect the other person to appreciate you or do something nice for you in return, you are setting yourself up for disappointments.
• Your type has a danger of falling into unconscious codependent patterns with loved ones, and they rarely bring you what you want.
• While there are many things you might want to do for people, it is often better to ask them what they need first.
• You are gifted at accurately intuiting others' feelings and needs, but that does not necessarily mean that they want your needs remedied in the way you have in mind.
• Communicate your intentions, and be willing to accept a "no thank you." Someone deciding that they do not want your particular offer of help does not mean that they dislike you or are rejecting you.
• Resist the temptation to call attention to yourself and your good works.
• After doing something for others, do not remind them. Let it be: either they will remember your kindness and thank you in their way, or they will not.
• Your calling attention to what you have done for them only puts people on the spot and makes them feel uneasy. It will not satisfy anyone or improve your relationships.
• Learn to recognize the affection and good wishes of others, even when these are not in terms that you are familiar with.
• Although others may not express their feelings in a way that you want, they may be letting you know in other ways how much they care about you.

Color

• The color of Twos is red
• It symbolizes life, power, and passion
• Red is the color of love and martyrdom

Twos and Ones

Twos and Threes

• Twos and Threes can look very much alike.
• Both manage their image and presentation to please or attract others, and both are competent doers with vibrant energy.
• While both styles pay a lot of attention to creating an impression that matches what others value, Twos focus on meeting others’ needs and being friendly, likable, and accommodating. In contrast, Threes focus on achieving goals and attaining success to win the admiration and respect of others.
• Although Twos and Threes feel driven to accomplish many things, Twos are more relationship-oriented and task-oriented.
• Though Twos and Threes want to have the approval of others, Threes are motivated by the good feeling they get when they reach a goal and the satisfaction that comes with appearing successful. In contrast, Twos are motivated by earning others’ affection and being considered indispensable.
• Both Twos and Threes can be confused about who they are—with so much energy going into maintaining an image designed to impress others, it can be hard for people of both styles to have a clear sense of self.
• Related to this, Twos and Threes tend to avoid their emotions, Threes because the feeling can get in the way of doing, and Twos because the feeling can get in the way of forging positive connections with other people.
• Despite their many shared characteristics, Twos and Threes differ significantly.
• While both styles repress or go numb to their feelings, Twos do this less entirely and tend to feel and express more emotions more often than Threes do.
• While Threes can be very competitive and see winning as important, Twos are less oriented to competition, seeing aligning with others as more important than coming out on top.
• Although both Twos and Threes can sometimes become angry, Twos tend to express anger when their unacknowledged needs are not met and Threes when someone puts an obstacle between them and their goal.
• Regarding work, Threes can prioritize work so much that they become workaholics.
• Twos can also be hardworking but prioritize relationships and pleasure.
• Threes pay great attention to goals and performance and can be highly focused on efficiency and achieving the goal.
• In contrast, Twos prioritize what others need from them, so they adapt their agendas more to the goals of others or the larger group.
• When Threes are focused on a goal, they may have a hard time being present to listen to other people. In contrast, Twos’ primary focus is on tuning into other people. So they tend to be very empathic and present for friends, colleagues, and important others, even at the expense of their connection to themselves.
• Unlike Threes, who can focus like a laser on a goal, Twos may abandon their own goals to meet others’ needs or support others’ efforts.
• Finally, Twos and Threes differ in terms of what they avoid most: Twos work hard, sometimes behind the scenes, at achieving positive connections with others to avoid experiencing rejection.
• Threes structure their work and other goal-directed activities to avoid failure.
• Because of this, Twos can be less direct and assertive than Threes, and Threes can be more driven to win and reframe failures as learning experiences.

Twos and Fours

• Twos and Fours share some characteristics in common.
• Both styles are aware of image and pay attention to how others perceive them, but Twos want to be seen as likable and friendly, and Fours prefer to be viewed as special and unique.
• Their sensitivity to how others see and feel about them also contributes to both styles being self-critical, as Twos and Fours can judge themselves for not being good enough to earn other people’s love.
• Both Twos and Fours can feel their emotions fairly readily, though Twos can sometimes repress feelings and may at times be out of touch with their inner experience, while Fours can overdo or overidentify feelings or extremely dwell in some feelings to avoid other feelings.
• Interpersonally, Twos and Fours pay great attention to relationships and prioritize achieving connections with others.
• People of both styles have a great capacity for empathy and are typically skilled at creating relationships based on their ability to understand other people’s thoughts and feelings.
• Twos and Fours also differ in many respects.
• Twos tend to be optimistic, upbeat, and supportive when working on a project with others, while Fours often focus on what is missing.
• Twos want to be helpful by meeting others’ needs and neglect their own because their attention is so focused on others.
• Fours have more access to their own needs and wants and make their desires more of a priority.
• Twos are more other-focused, meaning they pay more attention to what others feel and need than their feelings and needs; Fours are more self-referencing, focusing their attention on themselves and their inner experience.
• When interacting with others, Twos place a high value on being liked and often adapt their presentation to be more of what they think others want them to be, while Fours value authenticity and do not alter as much to please others.
• Twos tend to be averse to conflict, fearing conflict can destroy valued connections with others. At the same time, Fours can engage in conflict when necessary, finding it more important to express genuine feelings and needs than accommodate others and avoid anger.
• Overall, Twos are usually upbeat in their mood and emotional presentation, while Fours can dwell more in melancholy and sadness.

Twos and Fives

• While Twos and Fives are opposites in some ways, they share some traits in common.
• Both Twos and Fives can withdraw when feeling vulnerable, though Fives rely on this strategy more often and in more situations than Twos, and the Self-Preservation Two withdraws more frequently than the other two subtypes.
• People of both styles can need time alone, though, for Fives, this is a more regular experience than for Twos.
• Twos usually need to develop an ability to be alone more as part of their self-work. In contrast, Fives usually need to develop an ability to be with others more.
• Twos most often feel the need for alone time after having been around people a lot or after they have done some development work and realize they neglect their own experience instead of focusing a great deal of attention on others.
• Both Twos and Fives also place a high value on independence, though for Fives, this is more of a way of life, and for Twos, independence may be a value they hold as an unconscious defense against feeling too dependent on others (as they depend on others’ approval to support their self-esteem).
• In many ways, Twos and Fives are quite different.
• Twos frequently feel their emotions, and Fives habitually detach from emotion.
• Because of this, Fives can seem very reserved, unemotional, and analytical, while Twos tend to appear much more emotional and react to things with more feeling.
• In line with this, Fives have a more objective, intellectual way of approaching tasks and discussions in contrast to Twos’ more intuitive, feelings-based approach.
• Twos like to be around people and actively seek out close relationships with others, while Fives highly value their privacy, personal space, and alone time and are generally less relationship-oriented.
• Related to this, Twos focus their attention on other people’s feelings and needs to a large extent. At the same time, Fives often purposely avoid becoming too involved with other people—especially with the emotions and emotional needs of others.
• Fives believe they can quickly be drained of energy and resources if they interact greatly with others. At the same time, Twos can feel energized and affirmed by contact with other people, especially close friends and individuals who are essential to them.
• Twos tend to give very generously to others and can even give too much. In contrast, Fives are usually more withholding, having a common concern that people will take too much of their resources, like time and energy, that they need for themselves.
• Additionally, Twos can have difficulty establishing appropriate boundaries between themselves and others, while Fives tend to be very mindful of establishing firm boundaries.
• For example, Twos can have a hard time saying “no” to people, even when they want to, while Fives can relatively easily say “no” if they don’t want to meet another person’s needs.
• Similarly, Twos usually consider themselves high-energy people who can readily devote much of their time and energy to others. At the same time, Fives have the sense they have limited energy and so pay attention to conserving their energy for their own needs.

Twos and Sixes

• Twos and Sixes can look very similar to one another.
• Twos and Sixes can worry and be fearful, but their fears have different sources.
• Sixes worries about overall safety, bad things happening, and problems occurring, while Twos worries more about whether people will perceive them positively, the possibility of rejection, and the safety of specific individuals who are essential to them.
• Twos and Sixes are good at reading people but do so with different aims.
• When applying their attention to others, Sixes look for hidden agendas and ulterior motives, whether someone is trustworthy or not, and potential threats, whereas Twos try to ascertain other people’s moods and needs as a way to connect with them and create rapport.
• When relating to people generally, Twos tend to be aware of managing their image to please or align with others, while Sixes do not consider their appearance and how others might be perceiving them as much.
• In addition, Twos wants to be seen and appreciated by others, while Sixes would often rather hide because being noticed can make them feel vulnerable.
• Both Twos and Sixes can worry about what will go wrong and work hard to make things go well— Sixes because they are good troubleshooters and want to anticipate problems before they happen, and Twos because they want to please others and appear competent and attractive.
• When making decisions, both Twos and Sixes can have difficulty deciding.
• Twos have difficulty making choices because they often don’t know what they need or want.
• They focus so much on other people that they can be unfamiliar with their preferences.
• In contrast, decisions can be challenging for Sixes because they continually doubt themselves and question their potential choices.
• They may also fear choosing the wrong thing and imagine the negative consequences that might result.
• Twos and Sixes also differ in significant ways.
• Sixes usually feel suspicious of or rebellious toward authority figures, while Twos wants to form good relationships with authorities.
• Twos often want authority figures and other important people to like them, so rather than being mistrustful, they will usually lead with behaviors designed to achieve a positive relationship with authorities if they can.
• Also, Sixes catastrophize and engage in worst-case scenario thinking much more than Twos do.
• Twos are usually optimistic, and while they might sometimes imagine that people don’t like them, they typically don’t think in terms of the worst case.
• Another contrast between Twos and Sixes is how each deals with conflict.
• Twos would like to avoid conflict most of the time if they can. At the same time, Sixes, especially counterphobic Sixes, can sometimes move toward conflict, especially if they feel motivated to challenge an authority figure they believe is abusing their power.
• Specific commonalities exist between Twos and the Self-Preservation Sixes.
• Both Twos and SelfPreservation Sixes are warm and focus considerable energy on creating friendships; they try to avoid showing aggression (though they both may do so when reactive).
• Twos try to attract friends out of a desire to be liked and affirmed, providing them with a sense of well-being.
• In a slightly different way, Self-Preservation Sixes want to create relationships that will serve as alliances to keep themselves safe amid friendly others who can band together against outside threats.
• Twos are motivated to form friendships by the need to be liked and seen as indispensable so that they will have friends to meet their needs in the same way they meet others’ needs.
• The Six has a strong need for safety against attack or other kinds of dangers.

Twos and Sevens

• Twos and Sevens can look alike.
• They both are upbeat, energetic, and fun-loving.
• Both Twos and Sevens tend to be optimistic, Twos because they want people to like them (and they know people like happy people), and Sevens because they like to be happy and not sad, as they can experience “negative” emotions as threatening and anxiety provoking.
• Twos and Sevens have hedonistic tendencies; both like to have a good time and experience pleasure.
• However, the aims behind their pleasure-seeking differ.
• Twos want positive experiences with others to build and enjoy relationships and as a way to indulge (or overindulge) themselves in response to deeper feelings of need deprivation.
• Sevens habitually seek pleasure as a defensive way of avoiding less positive experiences, including feelings of discomfort, pain, or anxiety.
• People of both styles enjoy relating to other people. They may idealize individuals they like, Twos because they want others to affirm their likability and Sevens because they like the stimulation of engaging with interesting individuals.
• There are also significant differences between Twos and Sevens.
• Twos pay a great deal of attention to other people, focusing on the moods and needs of others as a way of aligning with them to create positive connections. In contrast, Sevens focus more on their own needs and wishes, seeking fulfillment of their desires as a way of averting or distracting themselves from more negative experiences.
• Twos will often adapt to others and abandon their needs to strengthen their bonds with others. At the same time, Sevens do what they want to do and do not often give up what they need to please someone else (though the Social Seven is an exception to this).
• In relating to others, Twos also actively manages their image to attract others by being what they think they want them to be. Sevens do not focus as much on interpersonal interactions regarding how people perceive their image.
• On a fundamental level, Twos are motivated by pleasing others; Sevens are motivated by pleasing themselves.
• Twos tend to be more feeling-oriented, having regular contact with their emotions, while Sevens are more mental and more oriented to thinking.
• When completing a task, Sevens can have a difficult time focusing, especially if the job is tedious, while Twos have an easier time focusing on completing a job, especially if what they are doing is in some ways being seen and evaluated by others.
• Sevens like to have many options, and they can feel limited if they don’t, while Twos don’t necessarily need or want more options, as having many choices can make it more difficult for Twos to make a decision (because they often don’t know what they need).
• Social Sevens can look more like Twos than the other two Seven subtypes because Social Sevens are more oriented to service others.
• Social Sevens may be confused with Twos because, in addition to the commonality of being people-oriented, Social Sevens will sacrifice their own needs, in a way similar to Twos’ style, to support the needs of the group.
• This habit of being conscious of the group and what others might need can make the Social Sevens seem a lot like the friendly, outgoing, generous Twos.
• However, despite the Social Sevens’ tendency to give more or sacrifice their self-interest more than the other Sevens, the Social Sevens can still be distinguished from Twos by their knowledge of their own needs and wants and their tendency to avoid difficult feelings.

Twos and Eights

• Although they are very different, Twos and Eights have some commonalities and can appear similar.
• In particular, Social Twos can look like Eights, and (predominantly female) Social Eights can look like Twos.
• Twos and Eights both tend to be protective of others, significant others in the case of Twos, and weaker or more vulnerable others in the case of Eights.
• Both Twos and Eights can be impulsive, self-indulgent, and hedonistic, Twos because they may overcompensate for not knowing what they need (and thus may often feel deprived), and Eights because they move quickly into action, often without thinking, and don’t like to have inhibitions put on their desires.
• People of both styles can be excessive in the things they do, like eating, working, and giving; Eights because they have great energy and appetites and don’t like to feel limited, and Twos because they often don’t know exactly what they need, and so can overdo it at times.
• Also, Twos tend to abandon themselves when they focus on others’ needs at the expense of their own, and Eights tend to forget their own needs and limits when they, for instance, habitually take on more and more and work without being able to recognize their limitations.
• Both Twos and Eights like to be in control, Eights because they see the big picture and want to make an order and move things forward and meet their needs, and Twos because they want to appear competent and do things in a specific way that they think, will impress others.
• There are also several contrasts between Twos and Eights.
• Twos focus a great deal of attention on their image and how people perceive them, while Eights may express an attitude of “not caring what others think of them.” Most Eights can relatively quickly feel and express anger and confront conflictual situations, even if they don’t “like” conflict.
• While Twos can occasionally confront people and engage in conflict, most often Twos repress their anger and avoid conflict because they fear it may alienate people they want to maintain a connection with.
• Eights’ attention typically focuses on power and control, who has it, and how they use it.
• Twos may sense this at times, but they primarily pay attention to what people need and how they feel, not how much power they have.
• Although they do not always have to be the boss or the leader, Eights can easily step into a leadership role, especially if there is a void in that area.
• Although Twos can be good leaders, they usually feel more comfortable in a secondary support position: the leader’s right-hand or the power behind the throne.
• And while Eights can dominate and impose their will rather easily, Twos tend to read a situation in terms of what is required of them and then alter their behavior to be what others need them to be rather than asserting their own will all the time (though sometimes they do so in a prideful “I know best” kind of way).
• Finally, Eights avoid expressing vulnerability and usually deny any sense of vulnerability.
• Twos, on the other hand, can more easily express vulnerability. They often feel vulnerable feelings, such as hurt or sadness, and may even use their vulnerability unconsciously to manipulate others.

Twos and Nines

• Twos and Nines are two types with many traits in common.
• They both tend to focus on others, so they often forget or neglect their needs and wants in favor of allowing others’ needs and desires to be in the foreground.
• Both styles over-adjust to others, with Twos altering their behavior to be what they think other people want them to be so they will like them and Nines blending with others’ agendas to create harmony and reduce tension and separation.
• Twos and Nines can make good mediators because they easily see and understand others’ perspectives and opinions—in fact, they can usually see others’ points of view more clearly than their own.
• To outside observers, Twos and Nines appear likable, friendly, and caring.
• People of both types have little or no contact with their anger, though some Twos occasionally feel angry when their unexpressed needs are unmet.
• Uncomfortable with anger and oriented to maintaining positive connections with others, both Twos and Nines regularly avoid conflict, though again, some Twos can be more open to conflict at times when their more emotional nature drives them there.
• Twos and Nines can engage in passive-aggressive behavior as it may be hard for them to assert themselves and express anger more directly out of fear that they will break important connections with other people.
• While Twos and Nines can look very similar, they do have some contrasting traits.
• While both types focus their attention primarily on others instead of themselves, Twos tend to focus more on feelings and tend to feel their emotions more readily. In contrast, Nines focus more on maintaining an energetic harmony with others.
• Twos tend to feel a wider range of stronger emotions more frequently than Nines, who tend to be more emotionally steady and even.
• Twos move more actively toward others, proactively reading their needs and preferences to aid in their effort to align with them emotionally, while Nines do not seek out connections with others as actively and do not read people’s needs as much.
• In addition, Twos are more selective when it comes to the individuals they seek to establish relationships with.
• Twos tend to be more attracted to some people than others. At the same time, Nines are more democratic and do not make purposeful efforts to pursue connections with particular people in the ways that Twos typically do.
• Twos tend to have a more active, higher energy level and a faster pace than Nines, who usually appear more relaxed and easygoing.
• While both styles can abandon themselves in favor of paying attention to others, Twos tend to repress needs and feelings, while Nines “forget” or avoid paying attention to their desires and agendas.
• Nines tend to tune out to their agenda, while Twos often have a clear agenda even though they may ignore what they need.

Career Advice

• They can make excellent Social Workers, Elementary School Teachers, Child or Senior Caregivers, Nurses, and Hospitality Workers.
• They excel in any occupation that requires caring and comforting others.
• They have an uncanny ability to sense people's emotions, needs, and desires.
• Extraverted Twos are sometimes seen as actresses, actors, and motivational speakers in the limelight.
• They also work in sales and help others as receptionists, secretaries, assistants, decorators, and clothing consultants.