ENFJ - The Giver
People with ENFJ Personality Type are often described as warm, outgoing, loyal, and sensitive.
Of all the personality types, they are often perceived as the most people-oriented.
They can forge friendships with anyone, even with the most introverted or reticent individuals.
Because of their ability to sense what others feel and behave, they can influence and even manipulate others.
This is typically balanced by their strong values and desires to help others to be the best they can be.
With Extraverted Feelings as their dominant and top extraverted functions, Givers are Judgers and use objective values when making decisions.
They are forward-thinking with their Introverted Intuition looking for deep connections and patterns.
They like to gather facts with their Extraverted Sensing and are selfless with their Introverted Thinking lowest function.
They are structured, like to plan, and prefer closure.
Givers are extraverted, preferring time with others to talk things out.
| Process Information: | Organize Concepts and Patterns |
| Decision Making: | Tribe Values |
Dominant Function - Extraverted Feeling
- ENFJs express this cognitive function through their engaging social behavior and harmonious social relationships.
- They are in tune with other people's feelings, often to the point that they ignore their own needs to please others.
- ENFJs emphasize personal, subject considerations rather than objective criteria when making decisions.
- How a decision will impact others is often a primary concern.
Auxiliary Function - Introverted Intuition
- ENFJs like to think about the future rather than the present.
- They may often become so focused on the larger goal that they lose sight of the immediate details.
- As ENFJs take in information about the world, their introverted intuition processes this data to create impressions, ideas, and thoughts.
- This allows them to spot patterns and make sense of complex or abstract data.
Tertiary Function - Extraverted Sensing
- In an ENFJs personality, extraverted sensing causes them to take in the present moment, gathering concrete details and sensory information from the environment.
- Because of this, they often seek novel or interesting experiences and sensations.
- People with this personality type tend to be very aware of their present environment.
- This can lead to a great appreciation of aesthetics and a desire to create a pleasing space.
Inferior Function - Introverted Thinking
- ENFJs are organized and enjoy structure and careful planning.
- Sticking to a predictable schedule helps ENFJs feel in control of the world around them.
- Because this is an inferior function, ENFPs may not have a great deal of confidence in their ability to be logical and organized.
- Developing this function can help people with this personality type feel more balanced and in control of their decision-making process.
- Neglecting this aspect of personality can lead to relying solely on personal values when making decisions and neglecting the need for logic.
Traits
- ENFJs are altruistic, introspective, friendly, and idealistic.
- They are strong extraverts and sincerely enjoy spending time with others.
- They are more reserved than different extraverted types.
- They have great people skills and are often described as warm, affectionate, and supportive.
- They are great at encouraging others and derive personal satisfaction from helping others.
- They are often so interested in devoting their time to others that they can neglect their own needs.
- Because of this, people with this personality type must regularly set aside time to attend to their needs.
- While they love people, they need time alone to assimilate and organize their thoughts.
- Their primary function is Extraverted Feeling, so they naturally work well in matters concerning other people.
- Their auxiliary function is Introverted Intuition, which allows them to clearly perceive the inner workings of the mind, making them aware of other people's needs.
- They refrain from expressing their beliefs if it is in the best interest of those around them.
- ENFJs work more like chameleons or mirrors rather than individuals to suit other people better.
- They can express their values, of course, but they would rather be supportive of others.
- However, they may sometimes feel alone in a group of many because they cannot be themselves.
- ENFJs prefer things to be well-organized but do not like to be forced to deal with logic and facts that do not connect to people.
- They may judge things too quickly based on their morals and values without objectively analyzing a situation.
- They like the idea of possibilities and thus prefer planning over their achievements.
- They are good at bringing consensus among diverse people.
- They can be outstanding leaders and bring enthusiasm to a group that can be motivating and inspirational.
- Some may have difficulty making decisions and will rely on others to make decisions for them.
- They also tend to be too hard on themselves, blaming themselves when things go wrong and not giving themselves enough credit when things go right.
Friendships
- One of the best ways to be a good friend to an ENFJ is to accept the care and support they naturally offer.
- People with this personality type enjoy helping their friends. It is important to show that you accept and appreciate what they offer.
- You must also offer your support.
- ENFJs are not always good at asking for help when needed.
- In many cases, listening to whatever they share can be very helpful.
Personal Relationships
- ENFJs value other people and are warm, nurturing, and supportive in personal relationships.
- At times, they can become very wrapped up in other people's problems.
- They are generous and interested in helping others, which can sometimes be overbearing.
- Despite this, they are usually very well-liked, and people appreciate their genuine concern and care.
- As parents, ENFJs are nurturing and warm, although they can sometimes be accused of being so-called "helicopter parents."
- They are directly involved in their children's lives, although they can sometimes be strict and rigid.
- ENFJs need to remember to give their children room to explore and express their individuality, particularly as children age into adolescence.
- ENFJs have outgoing personalities and enjoy spending time with others. Being in social settings helps them feel energized.
- In friendships and other relationships, people typically describe ENFJs as supportive and fun.
- They are particularly good at relating to others. They are known to help bring out the best in the people they spend their time with.
Partner Relationships
- Because ENFJs are so sensitive to the feelings of others, your happiness is critical to your partner's happiness.
- Remember that your partner may even put their own needs last to ensure that your needs are met.
- Let your ENFJ partner know how much you appreciate all the support and care they offer and be willing to provide the same support in return – even if they struggle to ask for help.
Parenting
- Children of ENFJs might find it difficult to live up to their parents' high exceptions.
- At times, the ENFJ parent's hands-on approach to parenting can be stifling and make it difficult for kids to explore the world on their terms.
- Parents of ENFJ children should recognize that their children are extremely empathetic, sometimes to the point that they may feel overwhelmed by the strong emotions that other people evoke.
- These children are giving and caring but may find it difficult to burden others with their struggles.
- Parents should encourage their children to care for others while taking care of their emotional well-being.
Career Advice
- ENFJs often do best in careers where they help others and spend a great deal of time interacting with others.
- Because of their strong communication and organizational skills, ENFJs can make great leaders and managers.
- They are good at organizing activities, helping each group member achieve their potential, and resolving interpersonal conflicts.
- They strive to create harmony in all situations and always seem to know what to do to ease tensions and minimize disagreements.